Writing is hard to understand!
According to recent research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, I've only a 50-50 chance of ascertaining the tone of any e-mail message. The study also shows that people think they've correctly interpreted the tone of e-mails they receive 90 percent of the time.
This is simply because people are very very good at their own style of perception but not so good at a) remembering that other people have
their own perspective, b) simulating that perspective in order to ascertain characteristics such as tone of an email, and c) knowing which of somebody's many moods (and therefore which of their many perspectives) they are currently in.
Those who sent the messages predicted that nearly 80 percent of the time their partners would correctly interpret the tone. In fact the recipients got it right just over 50 percent of the time.
At the same time, those reading messages unconsciously interpret them based on their current mood, stereotypes and expectations. Despite this, the research subjects thought they accurately interpreted the messages nine out of 10 times.
If I tally my own numbers I think girls tend to misinterpret my emails about 90% of the time and misrepresent themselves 100% of the time. I guess this article just points out that it isn't
all my fault. Here's to research.